Hunt for a new OB - 17wk5d

A friend recommended my current OB, after meeting him the first time we really liked him. We then found out that my Dh's insurance would be changing in March and that this dr would no longer be in network. I was really upset by this because I did really like him, and the thought of having to try to find someone elses I felt comfortable in network was just overwhelming. My Dh did his homework, talked to the insurance guy and were told that since I would be in my 2nd tri come march Oxford would offer transitional care. This means Oxford would cover me as if they were BCBS, all we needed was the dr to fill out the paperwork.

At our next visit my Dh asked thr dr if he would be willing to fill out the paperwork for the tranisitional care and explained the situation. The dr said this was fine and told us to bring in the paperwork at our next visit. Fast forward to Tuesday, we tried to give the dr the paperwork and he said he didn't deal with the insurance and to give it to the girls upfront on the way out. Yeah, well guess what? The girls at the desk says in her nasty tone, "we don't do transitional care, if we are going to do transitional care we mine as well just take Oxford." We explained that the dr said it was fine and she says, "the dr delivers the babies, he has nothing to do with insurance, you should have asked us." I then tell them that we won't be able to stay here then and she tells us to just pay our deductible. Really? Why would I pay out of network costs when I can be covered? Am I happy that I have to change no, but there is no way I am going to pay $500 I don't need to just to stay here and deal with your nasty attitude!

I left there feeling so upset! I am 2 weeks away from getting my antomy scan, which needs to be done under BCBS, and this OB doesn't do them so I have to find a dr to do that as well as a new dr. I have had a lot of people suggest a Dr Gallo so I called them to make an appt, only to find out that it is there policy to not take new patients after they are in their 2nd tri. I also find out this is very common practice due to liability. This of course upsets me more because had the dr told us to talk to the girls about insurance instead of saying yes its fine, I would have found a new dr a month ago and would not have this problem now! So now I have no dr as of March 1st and no idea what I am going to do.

Dh has been great making all sorts of calls trying to find a new dr, but of course this is a holiday weekend and a lot of the offices are closed till Tuesday. Things just never seem to go smoothly for us, I am thrilled to be this far along in this pregnancy but could really have done without this drama right now. I know things will work out, they have to. I just wish I didn't have to deal with this.

I'm not having fun -17wks2d

All I ever wanted was to get pg, and now that I'm here I'm not enjoying it. I know I have no right to complain and I am sooo thankful that I'm here, but IF has ruined all the fun.

We never wanted to know what we were having, but PGD ruined that for us. And because we have known what we are having since the day we got our BFP I have always felt farther along then I actually am. example the rush to register, DH and I just decided we need to wait to register since my shower won't be till after he's born, thanks to IF, probably closer to September.

My mom won't purchase the furniture till he's born and Dh doesn't want to paint till he's born so I can't work on the nursery.

I use my doppler every night to make sure everything is ok, I still spend most days terrified he's going to be taken from me, again thanks to IF. Because of all my worrying time is standing still.

My u/s experiences have been just ok due to crappy techs.

I'm not showing yet thanks to all the weight I gained over the past 4yrs, again because of IF. I'm not feeling movement probably because I'm fat which just causes me to worry more.

God I sound so ungrateful, I'm thrilled to be pg! I just want it to be July and have this little boy in my arms. Everyone keeps saying don't rush it you'll miss it when its over but I'm not enjoying it.

4D u/s-16wks6d

Tonight we went for our 4D u/s. We verified that he is defiantly a boy, and got to see that he's ok. We weren't able to get a lot of good pictures since he is still so tiny. It was suppose to be a 45 min session but we ended it after 20 mins and will use the other 25 mins on our next visit around 26 wks. The tech said we can even do a third visit later in the pg which is pretty cool. I really can't complain, it was good to see my boy. The tech liked to talked A LOT! Therefore didn't really tell us what we were looking at and believe me at points we needed naration. I just can't wait till he's here, I want him in my arms!

We bought our nursery bedding-14wks 6d

We have had a hard time deciding on what theme we wanted to go with in the nursery. I thought I wanted puppies so I sold Dh on it, it wasn't a hard sell by the way. Then I decided I wanted monkeys, Dh was not thrilled with this at all. He's a little freaked out by monkeys lol! So I began my search for something, different, and bright. I finally found it at Pottery Barn Kids and just love it! I went to the store to see if I would like it in person and I really really do. I know I probably shouldn't have bought it this early but I am just so afraid that they will discontinue it before July. My parents are buying us the funiture, but my mom refuses to buy it until after the baby is born. I am very eager to get the room set up, so this puts a damper on things but I understand her reasons and it's probably for the better.

Trip to the ER-13wks 5d

I am little embarrassed to be writing this, hopefully this will be the only time I freak out and rush to the ER.

I had awful back pain yesterday, 10x worse then it has been. I also had some cramping. In honesty it felt like I was getting my period. I just didn't feel right all day. I came home on my lunch to check the hb and everything was perfect. I had an OB appt today so just figured I would talk to him about not feeling good today. Well before I went to bed I decided to check the hb again. In the past I have had 0 trouble finding it, it's always in the same spot. well after 1/2hr of trying to find it I freaked out and scared Dh enough for him to say we need to go to the ER. So off we went.

Once there they were not able to find it with a doppler either. They finally called for an u/s but since it's a small hospital the u/s tech left at 11pm and needed to be called back. It seemed like forever, I laid there sure that he was gone. Finally we get the u/s and what do they find? A happy healthy little baby measuring right where he should be with a good hb.

I feel like I overreacted, but had I not felt like crap all day I may have not thought anything of it. My OB lectured me today about using the doppler so I think I may need to lay off it. It was scary, but I am so glad everything turned out fine.

Today I am exhausted from only getting 5hrs sleep, my back is still killing but dr said welcome to pregnancy. GREAT!

NT scan-13wks1d

Please don't get me wrong I am totally thrilled that everything looked good and our little man is doing great! But I was a little disappointed with this appointment.

After waiting 2hr, yes 2hrs our appointment was at 2:30 and they didn't take us till 4:30, I think the tech was in a little bit of a rush to get out of there. He showed us a bunch of views of the little guy, but was moving the probe around so much and so fast that it was hard to get a good view of him. I also find that they never point the screen at me, my Dh always gets the great views and is thrilled with the experience while I am stuck seeing a side view. He printed out a few pictures for us, but they are blurry and not the greatest shots. It was exciting to see him, but I was hoping for more. Knowing that I won't have another u/s till 20wks doesn't help.

I know I should be thrilled, but I'm bummed. My Dh is floating on air and thought it was all amazing, I was less then impressed. God that sounds awful! Again I am just thrilled the little guy is doing well, I guess nothing else matters right?

Happy 2010-12wks

Today we officially announced on Facebook that 2010 will be the year our baby will be born!

We posted the picture attached and the status went something like this....
Party hats $4.29, streamers and noise makers $5.15, bottle of sparkling cider $6.00, being to tell friends and family that 2010 is the year our baby will be born.....PRICELESS!!
Baby Ryan due July 15, 2010

The responses we got were overwhelming. We have been blessed with wonderful family and friends who have supported us every step of the way. They have all been praying for us, and today I saw just how much this baby is already loved.

Today was a good day, it was wonderful to be able to make this announcement. I have been waiting so long to become a member of this elite club, and today I got my membership card!

Happy 2010!